Once upon a time, there was a prince and a princess. They met at a ball a year after the last time they’ve seen each other. They used to be so close to each other like the world was theirs. But what power do they have when the distance separated them? Love? It was too soon for them to call it love. The prince stopped looking after the princess after 7 months they kept in touch. What left in the ball were sparks and emptiness in the princess’ heart. They decided to continue what they had left behind, and they became somehow close again, different kind of closeness. One day, the princess braved herself to tell this story to the prince. She said to the prince, “We used to be so close to each other, but I don’t feel the same now. I feel you see me differently, like I’m not your best friend anymore.” The prince tried to convinced her that she was still his best friend. At the end, the prince asked the princess who is him to her. Best friend, she said. The princess was late to realize that at that moment she said “best friend”, the prince’s hope vanished like a vapor.
There are two sides of every story. For what I realize, girls and boys will approach this story differently. For girls, you might want more information of what happened before the distance has separated them and why the princess can’t make the decision yet. But for guys, you might think how stupid the girl is.
I will answer from the guys‘ point of view first.
For this time only, I will say yes that the princess is stupid. I know, you don’t have to tell me. She supposed to know that best friend was not the word the prince was looking for. The princess is not sensitive at all; she didn’t she it coming, she didn’t see how the prince saw her differently, and she couldn’t make a decision (of course, how could she!). However, guys might not understand this. When she said best friend, she meant at that point they were best friend. She was not hoping he asked that question, she was hoping the guy to take her more seriously, gave her a statement first not a question. At the end, she couldn’t make any decision because there were other factors that she concerned that the guy might never asked her. I admit that the princess is a tinker which can’t make decision yet. Perhaps, she needs a little more time?
From the girls‘ point of view, here is my answer.
Before the distance separated them, the princess and the prince were best friend. They saw and talked to each other everyday. Yes, the prince had full attention for her so did the princess care so much about him. The princess couldn’t make a decision because she saw many factors that would affect their relationship, such as different belief, long-distance relationship, parents agreement, and others. You see in here, girls tend to have many factors to consider rather than boys. Why? Because some girls are tinkers, boys are more straight forward or to-the-point. And the next question will come across girls’ mind is does she really love him? Well, the answer is yes, the princess loves him, she just need more time to admit it, don’t you think so?
Some of you might not agree with these views, which is fine and I would definitely understand that. The point of this story is girls and boys act and think differently. The boys are from Mars and the girls are from Venus. But how come the two become one? Well, in theory, both parties have to understand themselves first to understand each other, then they can love each other which means they will accept the differences among them and work on their strengths to unite them. In this story, the princess and the prince has not reached this stage, that’s why it said, ” it was too soon for them to call it love”. They might have been closed to each other for a long time, but both parties have not understand each other yet. There was unsolved miscommunication between them. The thousands miles distance between the princess and the prince cause one simple problem that they bear : how to have time for each other while they are a thousands miles apart. We said they might need more time, but for some people, they would say how much longer time they need? Isn’t 1 year is enough? Didn’t the princess took so much of the prince’s time? We can’t really say how much longer time they need, it depends on the readiness of each couple.
Rick Warren, an author of The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here for? said,
“Time is your most precious gift because you only have a set amount of it. You can make more money, but you can’t make more time. When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you’ll never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.
It is not enough to just say relationships are important; we must prove it by investing time in them. Words alone are worthless. “My children, our love should not be just words and talk; it must be true love, which shows itself in action.” Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is “T-I-M-E.”
Therefore, if time is that precious to you as well as love is, make an effort to your loved one. Give him/her your time, make room in your heart to understand him/her, because it’s all worth it at the end. “The best way to spell love is ‘T-I-M-E’ .”
Someday, I wish to tell you the prince’s side of story. This story was just a beginning 🙂
ps : Don’t ever give a white rose to someone if you’re not willing to share your time with her because the flower will go to waste.
~girl in pink dress